How about peacefully dissolving your children’s addictions by learning how to manage their relationship with digital devices?
According to a study, young people use devices for an average of 7 hours a day. And that doesn’t include time for homework or school. Therefore, it is not surprising that many parents are worried. It makes things even more difficult when children get angry when parents try to fix the situation. We share with your child ways to solve this problem without any tantrums or turning into a crisis…
1. LET THEM CONTROL THEM
One of the biggest mistakes modern parents make is not allowing their children to control their own time. Only in this way can they learn to distract themselves and take charge of their lives when they grow up.
2. EXPLAIN WHAT THEY ARE LOSSING IN TIME
Even toddlers who go to kindergarten know that time is limited. Explain to them that if they only have 3 hours of free time and they spend that time playing games with their tablet, they won’t have time to paint, go out with friends, or enjoy a bedtime story. Believe it or not, they can prioritize. Try not to fall victim to the prejudice that devices are bad. This is what happens when we don’t know how to control ourselves.
3. SHOW ADDICTIVE FEATURES OF DEVICES
If your child likes to play games on the smartphone, tell him about the rewards he has received at each level. If they like watching TV shows, it’s worth mentioning the cliffhangers that appear at the end of each episode. Seniors can understand the function of our hormones that makes us addicted to this sort of thing. It’s also good to show them how to manage screen time as an example.
4. ASK HOW MUCH TO USE
You might be afraid to hear that they will use their precious device all day. But after explaining the necessity of the restrictions this will probably never happen. Avoid setting limits on yourself; it will only cause you to bargain with them and kill the whole idea of independence.
5. ENSURE THEY USE THE TIME CORRECTLY
If you’re the one who pays attention to time constraints, this could be a big mistake. If a child sets limits, they should be the ones to push them. There are many ways to do this: set an alarm clock on a phone or ask them to set a timer, even small children can use a kitchen timer. Remember that you are just a counselor, not the villain who takes something valuable from your child.
6. START EARLY
As soon as your child starts insisting on using digital items and has a tantrum, it’s time to take action. Make sure everyone has calmed down before starting a discussion. If tantrums occur, it doesn’t mean it’s too late to fix the problem.
7. DO NOT CARVE THE FIRST RULES IN STONE
Above all, this gives you the opportunity to bring up a topic again when your child fails to keep a promise. On the other hand, it gives your child the freedom to change the daily screen time for a movie night on the weekends or change the way they watch the time.
8. BE READY FOR DISCUSSIONS
If you can fix the problem with no loss on either side, that’s great. But keep in mind that your child may object to the new rules. Be prepared for this and don’t get angry, punish them or take control. Try to calm them down and promise to discuss the matter again later. A good family atmosphere is always more important.